5 Ways To Think You’re Listening – But You’re Not!
Still on the theme of listening, the secret ingredient in communication, here are some things we often say which we believe means we’re listening in a helpful, even empathic manner.
Ask the person you’re listening to if they agree!
Can you spot any that are favourites of yours?
- Giving Advice / Fixing: Telling the other person what you think they should do.
“I think you should leave your husband and find somebody else to be with.”
2. Analysing: Interpreting or evaluating a person’s behavior. longest lasting gel nail polish
“I think you are taking this out on your wife when, in reality, you are angry with your mother about things that happened in your childhood.”
- Storytelling: Moving the focus away from the other and back to your own experience.
“I know just how you feel! This reminds me of a time that I…”
- Sympathy: Feeling sorry for the other, or sharing your own feelings about what they said. best nail dipping powder brands
“Oh, you poor thing… I feel so sorry for you.”
- Reassuring / Consoling: Trying to make the person “feel better” by telling them things will improve.
“You might be upset now, but I’m sure you will feel better soon.”
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What I love is showing you how to move from conflict to connection, from argument to agreement in ways that mean everyone gets what they truly desire.